A relationship breakdown is difficult, and is made even harder to deal with when there are children involved. Your beautiful, innocent children are now going to have to live without their parents being together and for some children, it’s a really difficult transition. The worst thing about your breakup is that you will no longer be able to see your children every single day. You may miss large milestones in their lives and that’s heartbreaking. However, it’s important to remember that they are the most important thing to think about right now, so here are some tips on how to be a good Dad after a relationship breakdown so that they have the best life possible.
Call them every day
Some Fathers think that if they shower their children with gifts and material things that they can get away with not calling their children every day. A simple fact is, your children want you in their lives and while they might love gifts, a simple phone call each day will make the world of difference. Chatting to them (and their mother) about their day and asking if there’s any way that you can help will show your children that nothing has changed apart from the fact that their parents no longer live together. It will also help you stay in the loop of your child’s life!
Know your rights
With relationship breakdowns come resentment, and sometimes Mothers stop contact between their children and their Fathers. It’s important to make sure that you know what your rights are as a Father so that you’re not missing out on precious time with your children. If you’re not sure where to seek this information, it might be a good idea to hire a Father’s rights lawyer to help walk you through the steps you should be taking. Remember that there’s a difference between being stopped contact completely and simply having to negotiate the days you see your children.
Keep your promises
One extremely important thing to remember is that if you promise to do something for your children and don’t come through, they will remember. It’s imperative to make sure that you don’t give your children false hope. If you can’t make it to their school play, tell them! Don’t leave them thinking that you’ll be there if you know full well that you won’t be. Keeping your promises will also help your parenting relationship with their mother and may result in you seeing your children more.
Keep any discrepancies away from the children
Finally, and possibly most importantly, make sure that you keep any arguments or disagreements away from your children. They simply want to see their parents and at times you will argue with their Mother, but protect them from seeing anything like that by discussing matters in private. If they can see that their parents are able to be civil they will find the breakup a much easier situation to deal with.