What Does It Take To “Keep the Edge” When You’re a Parent?

Of all the things that occur to our outlook when we become parents, one of the biggest concerns could be that we are just losing our edge. Becoming a dad, for all of the most wonderful things that come as a result of it, could cause you to worry about turning into some sort of old fuddy-duddy, and are losing the inherent thing that makes you you! But you’re not the only one, but it comes to keeping your edge, it’s not necessarily about buying a car that exudes style, or wearing “younger” clothes, but about making sure that you differentiate yourself. How can we do this? 

Have Little Components of Style, Although You Need to Be Sensible

If you are worried that becoming a dad means you’ve got to be “safety first” in every single way, it doesn’t stop you from getting little components of style in a subtle way. Take your car; if you are concerned that you’ve got to get a family station wagon, is there anything you can do to spruce it up? Something like alloys may look a little bit jarring on a family station wagon, but you can still purchase a vehicle that is safe, while also suiting your personality in spades. And while alloys are prone to damage, you can still use suppliers like Platinum Wheel Repairs to fix them up. Needless to say, the little components of style do not need to leave you.

Don’t Follow the Herd 

If you are someone who is constantly worried about losing your edge and settling into old-age pastimes, you don’t need to do what every other parent is doing. You need to follow your own journey. This could mean doing something that no other parent does or choosing a style of fashion that may be frowned upon in parents your age. But the most important lesson we can all learn is to be ourselves. Everybody tells us that we need to give in to old age and start being more sensible, and to an extent, this is true. However, we must remember that if we want to be our own person. We have to follow our instincts and do the things that feel right for us. 

Don’t Even Try to Keep up With Your Child! 

This is the biggest lesson for any parent. We might believe that in order to have some sort of edge, that we need to remain youthful, but the reality is that this looks like we are trying too hard. If you want to retain an edge as a parent, it’s not about trying to keep up with any form of trend, because this will only make you look more desperate. If you want to keep your edge but you are still looking to be sensible, all you need to do is be yourself. This may sound like some sort of cop-out, but the fact of the matter is that if you worry that you are losing touch as soon as you become a dad, you are better off trying to keep up with the only trendsetter that matters in your life: yourself!

My Daughter Wrote and Illustrated a Book!

Last year during the pandemic my daughter Abby decided that she wanted to write and illustrate a book. So I helped her get started with an idea she had. I helped her develop her idea into a short little story about a little girl that is lost and scared.

Helping a 10 year old write a story isn’t as easy as it seems. Sentence and story structure are not really at the top of their list of things to remember when writing. So we just took it one step at a time. I figured, no matter what, she is doing something creative and I am proud she is taking this step to get started.

It only took a few days to write the story. We made sure we went through a first and second draft and finally we had our final draft… that is until I lost it. I put the story somewhere… I just had no idea where, and as time marched on it was forgotten about and pushed aside to make way for the many other projects we always seem to get involved with.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago where my amazing wife FOUND the story! My daughter was not nearly as excited as I was. She must have already moved on from the story as she really struggled pushing herself to get the story illustrated. At first she just didn’t even want to start, but then I explained the process and that she would be coloring her drawings on the computer, she started to get a little more excited.

With a little help, Abby was able to knock out her illustrations and also get them colored over a relaxing weekend. With the review process finally finished up we are now happy to say that Abby’s very first book, The Lost Girl, is now available for purchase in digital as well as print!

To get your hands on a copy of The Lost Girl by Abby Williams just click the links below!

Keeping Safe On The Road With Kids

A road journey with kids is an exciting experience but it can also be quite dangerous. You need to ensure that you are taking the right steps to guarantee that your kids are safe when you’re out on the road. Here are some of the possibilities that we recommend you keep in mind here. 

Use Window Protectors

One of the first options we recommend is that you do use window protectors. With the right window protectors, you will be able to guarantee that there isn’t an issue with the sun glaring through the windows. This can be an absolute nightmare and may even lead to skin damage. It’s important to protect your children’s skin and when they’re in the car this is always going to take more than just sunscreen. Window protectors can also ensure that your kids don’t get too hot on the journey. 

Avoid Distractions

Parents will often have to find the right balance between keeping kids entertained on car journeys and ensuring that they don’t become a distraction while driving. Our first recommendation is that you don’t have music too loud on a car journey. If your child is listening to music or watching a movie in the back do consider giving them a pair of headphones. There are headphones available that are more comfortable for young children to wear and fit like a headband. 

If your child is sitting in the front of the vehicle, then they shouldn’t be watching a movie that is in your line of sight. This can be a massive distraction for you. 

Stopping By The Road

There are multiple reasons why you might need to stop at the side of the road. Your car could break down and if that’s the case then you need to make sure that you keep your kids under control while you wait for the towing service. You can’t let them run around as this can be incredibly dangerous. You might also want to think about keeping them inside the car while you wait if it is safe to do so. 

Checking The Car

Finally, you do need to make sure that you are completing the right checks before you head out in your car. There is a range of checks that you need to keep in mind here. One example would be the tires. If your tires aren’t inflated to the right level this can be a major safety hazard. It can mean that you have lower levels of grip on the road. It’s easy to check if your tires are at the right pressure by giving them a firm kick. 

We hope this helps you understand everything you need to know to guarantee that you are safe on the road with your kids. In doing so, you can avoid a potential disaster scenario where your kids or injured or experience issues while you are out on a car journey. Remember, it’s easy to forget how dangerous a car can be if you fail to handle it the right way. 

This post is a collaborative effort by St. Louis Dad.

Truth, Pain, and DMX

Growing up as a white kid in a predominantly white area my upbringing wasn’t as tragic as many, but through-out my teenage years the reality of life started cracking away the shell that had been built around me. Plenty of loss that left a void needing to be filled, but rather with strife, I turned to Dark Man X and many other artists just like him.

To live is to suffer. To survive, well, is to find meaning in the suffering

-DMX

My parents divorced when I was just starting my teenage years. As one of the most important developmental times in a kid’s life I was going through some deep emotional trauma with them splitting up. My father filled his void with drinking and it destroyed our family. Without guidance I turned to what I knew, and at that time in my life, that was music. Around the same time DMX was coming out of the gates swinging. There wasn’t a person that didn’t know “Y’all gonna make me lose my mind!!!”. As a teen I blasted these albums on repeat. We didn’t have iTunes, Spotify, or anything like that. It was CDs and that is exactly how I listed to X. It’s Dark and Hell is Hot and DMX’s follow up, Flesh of My Flesh, Blood of My Blood and …and Then There Was X, guided those teenage years of mine through the darkness that continued to plague my younger years.

I always felt like DMX spoke the truth no matter how harsh. He never glorified the drugs he was addicted to, just spoke to the pain and truth involved with the addiction he was faced with. While I wasn’t addicted to drugs, I was going through a pain of my parents separating, followed by my dad passing away… and as a kid, you do not exactly know how to deal with these things. DMX allowed me to let out the anguish I was facing watching my parents relationship burn to the ground. Hearing him rap with so much emotional depth, that deep voice, and the growl. I don’t why but those barks, his energy, whatever it was, it gave me the release to understand my own emotions to get me through.

DMX kept me grounded. I can only imagine what impressionable shit I could have gotten into coming out of a broken home. X allowed me to escape without hurting myself, and I can never thank him enough for that. While he isn’t the only artist that helped carry me through pain, this past week, reading and watching DMX slowly decline in health brought back a lot of these memories and made me remember how thankful I am for him and every single other artist out there, whether they know it or not, but their art is helping someone somewhere.

RIP Early Simmons aka Dark Man X