6 Ways to Include Your Kids in Your Wedding

Suppose you and your partner already have children together. Or, you are about to remarry, and you both have children from a former relationship. In this case, it’s a given that you will want them to attend your wedding.

If they are a part of your ceremony, it is not just about forging a bond with your spouse; it is also about forming a new family. For children, this can be both exhilarating and anxiety-inducing. If you or your partner have children, incorporating them in the wedding might make them feel more like a part of something rather than a victim.

It is very simple to involve children in your wedding. Here are some suggestions for how to go about it.

1. They Could Be the Mini-wedding Planners

Children will feel more special and interested if they are involved from the beginning. For instance, if your child enjoys shopping or has a soft spot for princess gowns, they might enjoy a day of bridal gown buying.

And almost every kid will agree to go for cake testing with you. Older children can even assist with wedding website design by picking favoritefamily images to add or by including their own unique touches, such as a favorite restaurant recommendation in a location close to the venue or near suggested motels.

Kids can also assist with mundane tasks such as sealing envelopes and licking stamps-anything to make them feel like they are a part of the team.

2. Include Them in Your Pre-wedding Parties

You wouldn’t leave someone so important out of the big day itself, so it is only natural that the kids are included in all the fun activities that take place in the lead-up. It’s a beautiful idea to have your older kids at your bachelor or bachelorette party.

For instance, if you have daughters, take them to your hen party on a boat cruise. This will not only make the mother-daughter bond stronger, but your girls will also have the opportunity to enjoy the beautiful ocean.

3. Give Them Meaningful Roles

Your kid could be a ring bearer or flower girl at your wedding.This is an ideal job for children ages four to twelve. They’ll enjoy walking down the aisle and completing a significant assignment, and your visitors will enjoy seeing them dressed up in their finest!

When they reach the altar, younger children can sit in the front row with a family member, while older children can stand with you and the rest of the bridal party.

Create a new role for older children or teenagers in the ceremony, such as junior bridesmaid or groomsman. They dress up like the rest of the bridal party, pose for pictures, and walk down the aisle during the processional.

4. Make Them Your Little Messengers

If you give a child a position of responsibility, they will guard it and treat it as if their lives depended on it. Preparing for the ceremony on your wedding day can be extremely stressful. You do, however, want your groom to know that you are thinking of him. This is where the children enter the picture.

Allow them to serve as messengers, passing gifts, notes, or cards from you to your groom and vice versa. They’ll be so delighted to be given this responsibility that you’ll assume they work for the US Postal Service!

5. Include Them in Your Vows

Including your children in your vows is a simple way to show your devotion to your family while also giving them a prominent place on your big day.

If you want to personalize your vows, talk to your kids about what you should include. This will give them a significant role throughout the day. They might even come up with something that you don’t have to include in your vows.

6.Invite Them to Make a Toast

Allow your children to make a speech during the reception if speaking in front of a crowd isn’t an issue. Sit down with them in the weeks leading up to the wedding and assist them in coming up with a few nice words to say.

This will give them a sense of belonging as you welcome your new husband or wife into the household. It also allows kids to feel important by speaking to the entire audience.

Take advantage of every opportunity to spend quality time with your children by incorporating them into the wedding planning process. Involving them at this stage will make decision-making easier and the entire day more memorable.


My name is Richie and I am a 38 year old father of two, a daughter and son. I am married to a beautiful woman named Destiny. She is the foundation of our family, and without her, none of this would be possible. During the day I work as a network security administrator for a local school district. At night I can be found illustrating books, working on websites, or creating music, but more than likely though I am spending time with my kids.

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