How Can Kids Understand The Trials Of Life?

We as parents should not expect thanks for doing the basics. What are those basics? Well, putting a roof over your child’s head, feeding them, making sure they’re warm and able to live a normal life of school, education, and fun. The real test of parenting comes when we teach them life skills. These skills will serve them well, long after we are dead and gone. They will love and cherish you forever if you can teach them about the way of the world. Let’s be honest, we shouldn’t expect thanks for feeding and clothing our children. We brought them into this world and the least we can do is to take care of the life we chose to make. Now, as they grow older and their brains start to develop more, we have to teach them the trials and tribulations of the world. Life is going to challenge them in so many ways and a child that hasn’t been prepared will be doomed to fail. So, let’s put on our thinking caps and figure out how we’re going to do this.

 

 

It’s not them, it’s you

Children don’t often get into anything serious when it comes to relationships, but they will begin to interact with the opposite sex more romantically at some point. When they’re toddlers, they’re too young to be taught about the birds and the bees and where life comes from. However, it’s incredibly sad to watch them get their heart broken for the first time. Your son or daughter might ‘like-like’ another kid at school, but they don’t like them back. We need to sit them down and tell them that it’s not the other person’s fault or their own that they have been rejected. They haven’t lost their value or become worth less in the eyes of the other kid. Talk to them about how when it comes to relationships and sexual attraction, we’re all very different. Just because you’re not someone’s type, doesn’t mean you are a bad person or need to improve on something. Don’t leave their feelings to fester and swirl around, as even at a young age, children can feel the bitterness of being rejected by someone they’re attracted to.

 

 

Going nowhere fast

Life has a way of becoming stagnant and no longer fulfilling. We get stuck in this routine and we just accept it as normal. Sometimes we are hit with an epiphany and we realize that there is more to our life if we so choose there to be. The trouble is, how can we explain such a complex thought process to our children so that they can notice when they feel like they are going nowhere fast? The hit show Waitress is a show that expresses this question in all of us. It’s safe for children to watch as there’s nothing obscene or too distressing in the show. We follow Jenna, a woman that seems to be trapped by her own inability to really chase after what she wants in life. Her husband has grown apart from her and she is sick of staying in a small town that doesn’t have many opportunities to better her life. The story told, shows how she gathered enough courage to break free from the bonds she had slipped into and find happiness by doing what she really felt she was meant to do. Through this live performance, our children can learn the value of remaining a sovereign individual. Always making sure that they aren’t living their life for someone else but just for themselves.

 

 

Test of will

Failure is something that children need to acknowledge but refrain from getting used to. Again, a tightrope for parents to walk across over. How can we teach children that failure is something they will encounter in life, but that learning from mistakes so that they improve and lessen the chance of failing in the future may happen? Firstly, we have to explore with them the nature of not giving up. This is simple as they do this every day with their homework. They have to work out answers to the questions in their math and science books so they already know what it’s like to try and figure out the correct answer. Therefore, if we sit down with them from start to finish and help them with their homework, we can help them to realize when they are failing to get the right answer, and how looking at a problem from different angles, helps us to learn where we went wrong in the beginning. It’s test of willpower to break through a wall that is crying out for them to give up, but you can hoist them over it.

The trials and tribulations of life have an impact on our lives in different ways. Children need to learn early on in life that stories of courage and self-improvement can help them in their own lives.

This post is a collaborative effort by St. Louis Dad.

Kids and Chaos: Three Ways to Take a Break When Your Day Gets Manic

As parents, our kids are of course the most important people in our lives; we’d do anything for them and their health and happiness truly is our number one priority. However, as anyone with kids will tell you, sometimes they can seriously stress you out. At the end of the day we’re only human, and a day of crying, moaning and bad behaviour is enough to grind anyone down. Sometimes all we need is a short break to clear our head, compose ourselves and get back to it. Here are a few ideas for things you can do get a quick break when your kids are driving you bonkers!

A hot  shower

Baths are great- the hot water eases tense muscles, it reduces blood pressure and it’s a quiet place to think and relax. But as busy parents, we don’t always have time to luxuriate in the bathtub and so it’s all about quick showers instead. While they might not be as relaxing as submerging in water, showers can also reduce stress and so are a good option when you’re feeling a bit irritated and overwhelmed. Once you’re out and feeling fresh, you might well find tackling any issues you come up against is that bit easier.

A cup of tea

There’s nothing quite like a soothing cup of tea when things aren’t going your way. If the kids are scrapping and moaning and are generally getting on your last tether, step outside and give yourself five minutes to enjoy a brew. Whether you take milk and two sugars or prefer green or herbal tea, there’s something relaxing and refreshing about sipping the hot liquid and again you can return to what you were doing with a much clearer head! If you’re flagging and your stress is being added to by tiredness then go with a coffee instead, sometimes we a caffeine boost is what’s needed to get through the tough days!

A game of something fun

Sometimes a fun distraction is what you need, to take your mind off things and lower your stress levels. Whether console games or live casino sites are your thing, taking a break to enjoy a game could be just what the doctor ordered when your day gets chaotic. You might not have time to sit and watch a full movie or even a full tv episode, but you can play a quick game of something you enjoy and it could help to balance your mood again.

Instead of losing your temper or getting into a mood yourself, when things get stressful just give yourself a few minutes. One day your kids will be all grown up, and you’d do anything to hear them fight, moan and cry for your attention again! For now, take a break when you need it and then return to your duties with a smile on your face.

How do you deal with things when your kids are driving you up the wall?!

This post is a collaborative effort by St. Louis Dad.

12 Organization Tips For Your Office

The kitchen is where your body’s nourishment comes from, and your bedroom is where you get your daily dose of good night sleep. Even so, your home office is the nerve center of your entire home as it’s from where you work from so that you can finance all facets of your household. For it to maintain its function, a home office requires good organization. Good news is that you neither need to be an astute do-it-yourselfer nor have a huge budget to create a well-organized office. We are happy to share some simple, smart and cost-effective office organization ideas that will make your working space functional and dazzling.

  1. Extra Large Cork Board

Don’t let the high price tag attached to rolls of cork deter you. You can make yourself a large pin board by making use of cheap IKEA cork placemats and lattice from the local hardware store. Follow this tutorial for insights.

 

  1. Cover Office Chair with Fancy Fabric

Source : Little Green Notebook

Nothing does a better job at changing that dull-looking office chair to a comfy glamorous office necessity like some fancy fabric and Mod Podge. When making a pick, be sure to choose a fabric that complements your style and color scheme.

  1. Toss Routers into Decorative Paper Boxes

Source: Sweet Sanity Designs

While electronics are every home’s must-haves, they can create a mess if their cables are left lying around. Keeping them in decorative paper boxes is a sure way to keep your office space tidy.

  1. Make Printer Storage out of the Dresser

Source: PB&J Stories

Believe it or not, your dresser is one handy piece of furniture that could help get the printer out of the way. Check out this quick tutorial that gives you instructions on how to transform one of your dresser’s drawers into a perfect hideaway for your printer.

  1. Get Crafty

Source: Mod Podge Rocks

While cereal boxes and old paper towel tubes are one man’s trash, they can prove to be quite valuable to you. With glue, paint and scrapbook paper, you can easily craft your inexpensive yet alluring desk accessories from them.

  1. Kick Confusion Out with Cord Tags

Source: The Chic Site

Ever spent a couple of precious minutes trying to make out what plug belongs to which electronic device? We all have. The best way to put a stop to the confusion is to use adorable washi tape tags to each plug.

  1. Turn Simple Cans Into Glamorous Cups for Pens

Source: Creature Comforts

Do you always throw away soup cans? Don’t underestimate their worth. You can easily turn them into glamorous cups for pens and pencils. Just add metallic leather cording around the cans and secure with hot glue.

  1. Make an Office Gem Out of a Used Cabinet

Source: Two Twenty One

New metal file cabinets don’t come cheap. Sadly, they usually carry some boring look that doesn’t match their hefty price tags. If you’re on a budget, it would be wise if you obtained use-but-good ones from thrift shops. You can then add a fresh coat of paint on them to give them superior aesthetic appeal. 

  1. Adopt a Color-Coded System for Your Files

Source: A Bowl Full of Lemons

Do you have stack of files you keep meaning to put somewhere? Disorganized files make for a cluttered mess that can make it hard for you to work efficiently. Before you over-think your labeling system, think of how a simple color-coded system will do and try it.

  1. Glam up Storage Boxes

Source: First Home Love Life

Small office and craft supplies make for the most clutter in the office. Putting them in storage boxes is the sure way to get them out of the way. When painted and labeled, the storage boxes can double up as storage spaces and decorative pieces. Talk of hitting two birds with one stone!

  1. Make Use of Wall Space

Source: Style By Emily Henderson

Storage boxes can take up lots of floor space. You can free most of that space by utilizing wall space near or above your work desk. With the things you need to put away in mind, you can design simple yet stylish wall pockets to keep all that clutter off your desk.

  1. Utilize Bookcases to Store Magazines

 Source: In My Own Style

Do you have a large collection of magazines that you just can’t find it in your heart to discard? Well, instead of letting them lie around, you can tuck them nicely into bookcases. Wrap the storage boxes with pretty paper to add style. Also be sure to add labels to the boxes to ensure that you’ll retrieve any magazine issue you want with ease.

This post is a collaborative effort by St. Louis Dad.

The Dad’s Guide to Working From Home

Working from home can be fantastic yet it isn’t without its drawbacks.  Indeed, one of the greatest drawbacks is that whilst working from home can be much more convenient, it can make you less focused.

See, the temptation to watch YouTube, Netflix or check up on the land of social media is far too tempting and in addition to this, when faced with the prospect of getting down to work on a sunny day, most dad’s would lack the willpower to resist a family picnic by the river.  Then, there’s the distraction of children watching TV in the background, which whilst providing entertainment so that your kids aren’t disturbing you – the background noise can be distracting.

In summary, there can be a productivity cost when working from home in terms of focus, particularly if you struggle with discipline or concentration.

It’s therefore essential to set up a good space to work in; meaning a space that will allow you to feel comfortable and relaxed yet focused and productive.  You’ll want to create a distraction free environment that allows you to focus, and is ideally, differentiated or perhaps even removed from your actual home.

This space should be yours, and yours alone; meaning that when the door is closed you won’t be disturbed.  It should essentially feel like an annexe to your home rather than part of it, as this way, you’ll feel less distracted and more in “work mode”.

Here are three tips to help you focus when working from home:

  1. SET UP THE SPACE

You’ll want to create a distraction free environment that allows you to focus on work without distraction, therefore decluttering the space that will become your office will ensure a minimalist environment that assists concentration.

  1. FURNISH

You’re going to need a desk, as even if you are working from a laptop you’ll probably want to spread out in order to arrange your thoughts and focus on work.  Similarly, this is your home office and should be tailored to your unique needs – for example, if you are left handed then it’s important to find the best left handed mouse rather than struggle with a conventional mouse.

Also, what you sit in is extremely important, as this chair is likely to get extensive use, perhaps  upwards of eight hours a day. For this reason you’ll want a chair with plenty of padding and decent ergonomic support.

  1. ROUTINE

The most important thing in terms of having a routine, is that it provides structure and keeps you focused – that’s what a lot of people that work from home lack.  They lack the structure and routine of the daily commute, the set lunch hour, and home time. It can help to set yourself a lunch hour between a set time each day and even get dressed for work, as if you were going to the office, as this can put you in a more focused emotional state.

In summary, you want to create a space that allows you to focus.  See, it’s all too tempting for your attention to drift anywhere other than on work; particularly when working from home, and therefore you might need to parent yourself and set up your own version of ‘parental controls’ that keep you focused; there’s a brilliant app called Freedom that offers this type of filtering functionality.

This post is a collaborative effort by St. Louis Dad.