I Will Miss You Mom

This sucks so much to write, but I feel like I have to get it out. If I don’t then I may just hang on to it for too long.

Taken during the flood of 1993 cleanup.

My mom died a few days ago. It was one of the most heart breaking things I have ever had to endure so far in my life. First it was knowing that it was going to happen weeks before. Just living with that information changes you. Is the next phone call or text gonna be the one? When I was younger my dad passed away suddenly you didn’t get a text, you got a phone call on your landline. I was just a kid and I really didn’t have much support after it happened. There were no warnings, no updates, no getting to sit by his side listening to his breath weaken while you give your tearful goodbyes. Just a phone call.

This time around I am much older, a husband, a father, and so much more responsible, but I still feel as helpless now as I did then. Even with the support of my wife and family. Coming to terms with the idea that this is actually going to happen to it actually happening is still cracking my mental foundation.

It’s hard for me to talk about my feelings and express them properly, but I guess that’s what I am doing here. Blogging therapy…. Well, she didn’t die from the coronavirus thankfully, but she did suffer from some liver and kidney issues that slowly progressed from bad to worse over these last few months. I lied to myself and thought that she would miraculously recover but deep inside I kinda figured this would not be a road to a happy and healthy recovery. The doctors and nurses did all they could. My sister and my aunts did an amazing job taking care of her this past year. I cannot thank them enough for all that they have done…. and my step-father, I know he is hurting, losing his friend, finding and using his faith in God to find his own peace and reflection during this chapter in our lives.

I thought maybe I could push through it all and be as strong as I have been. It’s pretty hard to maintain a charade of happiness when inside all you want to do is break down. But I’m managing it pretty well. When I answer the phone I just push my feelings deep down. When my kids run up to show me something that they think is exciting, I need to turn it up and match their excitement. It’s best that they not see me falling apart. So I’ll do what I’m suppose to do. It’s what we men are known for right? Hiding our feelings.

My mom and dad. The younger years.

It’s crazy to think that because of the coronavirus my mom won’t have a “regular” funeral. Only a select few get to attend a memorial service while the rest can view a live stream of the event. It’s sad to think that many of those that were a part of my mom’s life will not even get a chance to say goodbye in the way that many people are so accustomed to. This can’t be a new normal.

I will miss my mom, but what I think I will miss more is being able to see her interact with my children. I already miss what could have been with my dad and my kids, but knowing what was there with my mom and these two wonderful kids, that hurts a lot. They will never get to see their Nanners again, never get to giver her another hug and ask for a snack like they were notorious for doing. It’s sad to think about and…. yeah… it. sucks.

There’s so much that I am gonna miss. I remember when my daughter was just a little baby and we would go over to my mom’s and “grocery shop” from what she had stocked up. Her over buying helped us so much during that time, not to mention all of the other times she had helped us in some degree or another. I could fill this blog with posts about her kindness and doing anything she could to help her kids as well as her grandkids.

Mom and me at a family reunion!

I know my wife Destiny will really miss you too. You were always so caring and sympathetic, and would always just be there to lend an ear if needed. A shoulder to cry on if wanted. A truly compassionate person that never judged. The times you have helped her get through her struggles can’t even be counted on both hands. She wrote a very heartfelt post on Facebook about you that summarizes the type of person you were and how that wonderful personality affected those that you connected with.

I will miss helping you with your computer questions. Things I took for granted like you asking about backing up data, or needing my help installing a web cam. As easy as they were I now wish they took ten times as long to do just so I could have spent a little more time with my mom. I’ll never forget how excited you were when I showed you a “hack” so you didn’t need to use your Sims CD when playing the game anymore… or the time when you found yourself in the rabbit’s hole called Kazaa and you would download anything you could.

I’ll miss your tacos, your gardening advice, and how the accent of your voice would change after hanging out with your sisters. I will miss learning from you. Even when I grew up and became an adult I still learned from you even though I thought there wasn’t anything left to learn. There is so much that I will miss, so much that I could list various things for days. For now I will just hold onto the memories. I won’t ever forget you, I will miss you Mom.

You can share a memory and view her obituary here.

Dads, Here’s a Christmas Tip

If your wife is anything like my wife, she spends an awful lot of time looking at cute photos on social media. And deep down, she wants to take cute photos just like the ones she sees. So this year, even though you may not want to, here’s a little Christmas tip. Buy some matching pj’s.

Looking through Lazy One’s website you will actually find some pretty cool pajamas. They all look comfy, and after the year we have had, I think you and your family deserves some comfort. Picking up some family matching Christmas pajamas is as easy as selecting a set and making the purchase. Kids love pj’s already, so that’s an easy win for you there, and Mom will be thrilled to finally get the cutest holiday greeting card this year, plus you will win lots of points since you had the idea. You don’t have to tell her you got it from me.

Placing your order now also gives you plenty of time to beat the holiday rush. The rush to get the right sizes, styles, and more. You’ll even have plenty of time to get the perfect photo for your holiday card! Before we know it, Christmas will be here and we will be wrapping presents under the tree, and it is pretty cute to see your family all cozy in their family pajamas. Plus your wife will love the Instagram moments she’ll be able to capture!

So use this Christmas tip wisely and don’t delay in picking up some cute family matching pajamas from Lazy One. They have some awesome styles, patterns, not only for Christmas but almost every holiday! Check them out and give the gift the will keep on giving with warmth, love, and a fashionable family!

Flat Tires? No Problem

Every dad needs a garage filled with tools. Without those tools you would probably need a handy-man to get things done. A garage full of tools allows a dad to connect with his children as well. You can show them how to fix things, have them help with various projects, and best of all you can keep their bikes, balls, and other inflatable items filled with air.

Air compressors have been very handy in this St. Louis Dad’s garage. Having an automotive air compressor has been a life saver in more ways than just filling up the air in our car tires. During the long winter months tires on the kids bikes go flat and who really wants to take the bike up to the gas station, find a couple quarters and fill them up with air when you can do it right from your own garage. I’ve learned this the hard way, and because of that I got myself an air compressor. So not only can my car tires be filled at the proper level, so can my kids bike tires.

Inflating a basketball, soccer, or football is also a good use for an air compressor. There have been many times where we find our basketball is just bouncing a little more flatter than usual. So we will get out the compressor, plug it in, and get that ball bouncing like it should be.

Riding bikes, playing basketball, soccer, or football is a staple of being a kid, and having dad help getting those items ready for play is the perfect reason to keep one of these bad boys in the garage. Your neighbor may appreciate it too!

So, before the winter hits, and you have to check your tire pressure at the local gas station, why not just invest in a shop air compressor from Best Buy Auto Equipment and make your life just a little bit more easier. It’s a lot more handier than you realize!

Three Key Ways Tech Can Save You Money

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The influence of tech on the modern world is something that is often decried as a negative – from the (often fair) criticism of social media to the complicated argument over “fake news”. There is, additionally, no shortage of people who believe that technology has broken down the links between people and damaged our social structures, though there are plenty who would argue to the contrary.

While we could go back and forth over issues such as the above, it is worth looking at the ways in which technology can bring a net benefit to us all, including the ability to make money online. For another thing, any of us who happens to be living on a budget will be delighted to take advantage of the many ways in which being “connected” can save you money both in the long and the short term. Below, we’ll look at a few examples of how this can work for you.

Getting smart around the home

Adding smart tech to your home may seem like a weird way to save money – after all, couldn’t you save by not buying tech? And we should be clear in agreeing that not every “money saving” purchase will save you money. However, investing in a smart hub for your home, and adding smart lightbulbs and perhaps a thermostat, can ensure that you’re only using energy and fuel that absolutely needs to be used. There is an initial outlay to be considered, but if you add what you can, when you can, it will represent a long-term saving.

Using apps and extensions for your shopping

Comparison shopping isn’t everyone’s idea of fun; it’s easy to wonder whether paying 13 cents less for a bottle of water is really going to swell your funds to any appreciable degree. However, saving on your purchases has become easier thanks to a range of apps and extensions you can add on your phone and laptop. Apps like the Huawei Member Center can get you the best deals on purchases. Browser extensions including Honey, meanwhile, can search the web for voucher codes that deliver big savings on anything you buy.

Saving on the little luxuries

While there are decent offers to be found on takeout delivery using technology – and these should definitely be explored for when you’re in a hurry – you can push the envelope a little further by making those little treats at home. A slow cooker will allow you to easily cook a range of tasty cuisines that easily match takeout standard, while a coffee machine can negate the need to visit a chain outlet to enjoy quality joe. Pick up a milk frother and a few syrups (which are increasingly available sugar-free) and you can even ape the fancy creations that would usually leave you little change from $10 – for a fraction of the cost.

There are plenty of other ways that technology can offer you savings, and it’s worth looking around for ways to cut costs; you’d be amazed how often people are missing out on the opportunity to save cash.